Abû Hurayrah relates that Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said:
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak a good word or remain silent. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his neighbor. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his guest.”
[ Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim ]
Tongues are like double-edges swords. They can work for us and against us, both in this world and the Hereafter. We will be held accountable for what we say.
“He does not utter a statement except that there is an observer by him ready to record it.”
[ Sûrah Qâf : 18]
- Always think about what we are saying
- Alway think of possible consequences of our words before we go ahead and speak
“A man might speak a word without thinking about its implications, but because of it, he will plunge into the Hellfire further than the distance between the east and west.”
Doing Good to Neighbours & Guests
When we meet people who are sick, sad, feeling down, in a low frame of mind, etc., we should say things that will make these people feel better, have patience in facing their calamity, be positive, be strong, etc. This is known as al-muasah – to say good things of encouragement to help those facing problems; to not make them panic. The scholars have defined sabr (patience) as ‘to refrain from panicking’ – to refrain from being out of control – and to refrain the tongue from complaining.
Complaining, e.g. simply saying that the weather is hot, will lead us to impatience; it can affect our attitude and hence our work. If we want to lament we should lament only with Allah. If we do it with Allah it is munajah – it will turn into ibadah. If we do it with others it will be complaining (tashakki) – we will be violating the ibadah itself, which is sabr.
So we should learn to minimise and ultimately eliminate the act of complaining. InshaAllah.
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should be generous to his guest. His special gift (to the guest) is one day and night. He (the guest) is to be entertained for three days. Whatever is beyond that is an act of charity. It is not lawful for a guest to stay with his host to the extent that he makes things difficult for him (the host).”
Allah Knows Best