Assalamualaykum wr wbt,
Hope this post find you alls in the super-est eeman and health. Alhamdulillah for every single atom of Oxygen Allah azza wa jalla is letting into my lungs and blood! :)
SubhanAllah, time pass so fast, now it’ 4 months to go, bismillah.
As how much I miss the hometown, I’m starting to miss the people surround me now whom I’m saying sayonara soon. Dramatic? Could be, but it’s just something only Allah azza wa jalla knows the feeling. Nevertheless, that is how dunya is created, of non permanence, and these wonderful wonderland and wonderpeople created by Him azza wa jalla is only for one main purpose, to worship him, every single twitch of muscle for Him, every single second as a confirmed preparation in meeting Him.
“So by mercy from Allah , [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].’
[Al Quran, Surah Ali Imran" 159]
To Them With Love
Was engulfed in yesterdays’s event with the youth, let me feeling a bit ‘youthful’ and these are some of the golden treasure moments I will treasure in my life insh’Allah. One of my sahabats came to me saying, “My mom was teaching me how to deal with the kids! I was worried, this is my first time dealing with them!’ I laughed listening to that statement. Then paused, thinking. SubhanAllah, dealing with the youth, indeed it’s a skill itself, and me who is pretty ignorant even with my closest sahabats, hrmm, could be a challenge for me as well.
Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience.
[Al Quran, Surah Al 'Asr : 3]
One thing which was a dush for me as well was one thing learnt from one of the best leadership courses.
To be Loved by others.
*GULP* Sometimes, you tend to be in this lala-land where you think every single thing you do is good, being drowned with multiple tasks laptops, ipads you name it, and you get disengaged with the real outside world dealing with human beings. I learnt that being a great leader is not being so super busy with multiple events, tasks, being a great fantastic all-you-know doctor or great cook but it is how you have time to spend with others. How much of ears and hands you have to spend with people which surrounds you, and looking upon the best communicator with the best of manners- the Prophet s.a.w you will be totally amazed subhanAllah how he s.a.w managed to do all that in the top of his s.a.w amazing charisma as the battle leaders and the best of husbands and fathers.
There are some times we tend to narrow our scope of minds- love is something to do with roses, chocolates and ribbons. Subhanallah, love is greater than that. It is action which comes from a clean heart- always striving to be a better person and free itself from the shackles of sins. Always looking at others with no made up judgements and thinking that you have a lot to learn from the person. Conversing with the sisters like talking to future Hannah, the grandmother of Prophet Isa a.s., to future Fatimah r.a. the best of daughters, relaying to them in the best languages, learning from them about yourself. And always wanting the best of them, and them to be much much more brighter than you for the sake of the Ummah and the sake of Allah’s Love and Mercy utmost importantly.
When talking to brothers especially to the younger ones, it’s as though you are speaking to future Umar al Khattab r.a., the finest of leaders and the just Ameerul Mu’minin, conversing in a way of uttermost respect, learning from them about them and you and always wanting them to be the best amongst of the ummah.
When correcting, it’s not because of that line, you are wrong and I am right.
But with the weavings of care & love & respect for the sake of Allah azza wa jalla, be it young or old. These young lads are much more alert than you, they watch every single glance you do, every single step you take and every word you speak. They know how sincere you are just by the smile you throw out in times of distress. And there is no point of acting out something, for the creator of your brains Know exactly the intention of the hearts and every reason you are doing it.
Advice them, in a way you love & respect them, you want them to be a better person and you are sincerely have that unimaginable eagerness of meeting him or her in Jannatul firdaus and if you slip she helps you up and if she slips, it’s your task to do that! Indeed as human beings Allah s.w.t Has created us imperfect, but the super ones are those who aim for perfection. Everyone slips, but the best of us are those who quickly get back up when slipped! Shaytaan does not do simple things like slipping you directly, but he will ensure that once you slip, you will never get up again! SubhanAllah. How big the loss would it be if we are amongst those who give up easily on our own mistakes when every second is a ni’mah given by Allah s.w.t for us to turn back into Him!
The Missing Ingredient: Gentleness & Compassionate
It’s a good time to recheck, review and revamp, if the way we communicate with human beings are in effective or not. Sometimes, we talk as if we know what we are doing right, thus always ask for feedbacks, and always observe the other party’s reaction and acceptance when we converse or communicate for the person. Yes, indeed it’s a bit sophisticated, but trust me, how you talk to others, it’s a rewarding lesson to be learnt! (inshAllah) especially for those full time duaats insh’Allah :)
And of gentleness & compassion- appropriately of course! Sisters should not be overly gentle and compassion conversing communicating to brothers and vice versa, thus that’s why I numerously repeat the word with utmost respect and know that indeed Allah is Watching you!
The beloved Prophet s.a.w advised us:
“Make matters easy, and do not make them difficult; and give glad tidings and do not turn people away,”
and on note of gentleness,
“Gentleness is not in something except that it adorns it, and it is not stripped from something except that it ruins it,”
It’ll be a great laughter (my terminology) when my closest sahabats read this because they know that me myself is so insensitive- it’s unreal.
Therefore this is always a reminder for me me me and me utmostly and for those who are concern.
Ukhti, forgive me for all my mistakes insh’Allah -.-”
This tiny amatullah is striving her best to be beneficial to others biidhnillah,
and in accordance when our beloved Prophet ﷺ advised:
“Convey on my behalf, even if (just) one verse,”
ps Please make duaa for a tutorial Im helping out tomorrow inshAllah! :) Jzkk
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Indeed a servant will speak a word pleasing to Allah that he thinks to be insignificant, but because of it Allah raises him by many degrees. And indeed a servant will speak a word displeasing to Allah that he thinks to be insignificant, but because of it, He will consign him to the Hellfire.”
[ Sahîh al-Bukhârî ]
Allah Knows Best :)